Love Aaj Kal: Love of Todays's Youth

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LOVE AAJ KAL: LOVE OF TODAY’S YOUTH??

From my school days, i used to make fun of all those who say-“I miss them”, “I can’t live without that friend” or something like this. All these pampering and childish behaviour annoyed me. It was not that i never missed someone. I just used to be very balanced, mature and sensible girl. I helped everyone, try to make others happy but never gave space to anyone in my heart. In other words, i was an adult from my teenage!!! Was it the environment i got at home or my own views that provoke me to live like stoic?? During starting years of my graduation even, in hostel when other girls used to cry for their families, i enjoyed the responsibility and freedom away from home as i believed in “Distance makes heart closer”. But my view point changed when i attached to someone to the extent that made it difficult to forget him for a second even. Well, throughout my life, i make my own fundaas and live on them. Any relationship starts from looks and end on love. We talk to any person when we are impressed by his looks or we need his help. If we become friends, sooner or later we become habitual of that person. Then comes the concern and bring attachment. Above all, the final stage LOVE- the highest and purest feeling one can feel.

Help àfriendshipà habitualà attachmentà love is the flow chart of any relation if i talk technically. The reaction needs an external stimulus till second stage but once it reaches to friendship, further reaction is spontaneous and can’t be control. So, one should know where to draw the line. To understand all these there is a need to understand the meaning of love.

What is love actually?? To have a boyfriend who can satisfy your feminism, who pamper you, take you on long drive and give you lots of gift and make you feel special!!!!!!!!!! Or it is something else?? Well, what i perceive from world around me is different from my views...........

Few days before, i saw a girl wailing before his so called love or boyfriend. She was begging for a sorry as if she has murdered someone and he is the judge who is going to accuse her. I strongly feel that today’s youth need to understand and feel true love..............love beyond materialistic things and love beyond this body............Platonic Love........

What is the exact meaning of love?? People have different views on it:

Is it about feeling good in company of a person?? Is it about feeling passionate about someone?? Is it a matter of some similar likings and disliking??? Is it about feeling jealous if the guy you think you love talk to someone else?? Is it about those silly fighting and childish behaviour even when you are mature enough?? Is it about satisfying your ego and feel like a superstar!!!! If it is so, i am sorry i don’t believe in love..all above symptoms as per my concepts suggest a dallied nature and nothing else. It is about just a butterfly effect and maintaining a facultative relation that can break anytime.

Love is not about taking gifts but giving time and support to your love. True love lies in prayers for someone, not in fightings. It lies in devotion and sacrifices instead of possessiveness. It’s about caring for someone more than you do for your own. A lover should not be jealous of but revere the person your love care about.......a good time partner can’t always a good life partner...........in fact in my views your love need not to be your life partner..........you can love anyone.........love is beyond boundations , beyond caste, creed, age. It is the purest feeling one can feel for someone...............”If you find good in someone, you will find best in yourself”.......so, love is about looking for the positive side of a person even when you know about all his limitations....................love is about missing someone all the time and thinking about him/her before your every deed. When you love someone, you always feel his presence. Your love can be for your parents, a special friend, any person in your life whom you really adore. Whatever it be, it should be mature, sensible, platonic and above all it need to be purest.............beyond all egos, oneness it should be selfless. But remember, love gives you a lots of suffering too..............so, if you are in love with someone, ready for all kind of agony, tears and all situation as once you say “I LOVE YOU”, you lost yourself...........now you are not you but u mean a lot to someone else too............so, what i can say is love only eligible who you are sure will not hurt you. But do remember, pyar karna apke bas me h par use pana nahi.............so, never expect something that you can’t get........so, “hope for the best and ready for the worst”.